My model friend Shashi Naidoo gave permission to republish this from her Facebook.
Being in the entertainment industry has brought on many blessings and challenges in my life, which I am grateful for. Being a model was not something I really took much to heart. So when I started my business as a florist whilst studying to be a chiropractor, I never thought delivering flowers to an advertising agency would have such a long-term impact on my life and push me into a whole new career path.
I came across a quote by Anais Nin. She said “How wrong is it for a woman to expect the man to build the world she wants, rather than to create it herself.” This quote resonated in me, because my mother and father always encouraged my sister and I to create our own futures. My Dad always reiterated how mind blowing women are; The stuff that routinely gets done to us as women would make most men curl up and die, but women turn to steel and keep on coming.
My parents did not want me to be a woman that only exists to “Live, laugh, love, be nothing but a happy cooking, shopping and cleaning machine”. My heroes growing up were Joan of Arc, Princess Leia, or women that would truly fight for something other than just their own emotions. Like men as women, we were born with dreams and qualifying those dreams brings us inner fulfillment.
I have been receiving a lot of feedback on my appearance on “Come dine with me SA” and Thank you very much for the pleasant comments. However, I found it really offensive to women the consensus that a woman cannot have a beautiful home unless she has a rich Husband/ex husband. Women have been made so accustomed to the comforts of “I cannot”, “you cant” and “it is too difficult” that we forget to realize when we stop doing things for ourselves and expect others to dance around us, that makes us weak. I just want every little girl to know that you don’t need a man to be a success, you just need a dream and lots lots of hard work!!